He may as well concern himself with his shadow on the wall.
Speak what you think now in hard words, and to-morrow speak what to-morrow thinks in hard words again, though it contradict every thing you said to-day.
To be great is to be misunderstood.” ― “A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds, adored by little statesmen and philosophers and divines.
With consistency a great soul has simply nothing to do.
But the moment we lose ourselves and our identity, we can no longer be the person we want to be.
We want to be liked and loved by the ones we care about. And when we become adults we should become self-reliant individuals, but funnily enough, we become even more dependent on others. We feel that we always have to agree with everything and everyone. Instead of being timid, stand up right and say what you think without reservation. If you want to have a voice in the world, you can’t expect that will happen smoothly. When we have a conflict, we often say to ourselves, “I don’t care.” And we walk away. I look up to many people, but I don’t consider them as saints. Instead, learn how to become a master of your feelings and emotions. When we look at ourselves, we never even consider that we might not need those things. I’ve drawn these lessons from Stoicism, Transcendentalism, and Pragmatism. How often do you think or feel something and you’re afraid of speaking it? Also, you don’t have to agree with everything your idols or examples say. In other words: Speaking out your emotions is not always useful. And yet we spend our lives mistrusting that innermost voice and instead deferring our truths to the voice of the outside world, turning to others, in ways subtle and staggering, to tell us who we are and what is real.No one has made more beautiful nor more convincing a case for trusting our inner voice than Ralph Waldo Emerson (May 25, 1803–April 27, 1882) in his 1841 essay “Self-Reliance,” perhaps the best-known piece in his ) — that endlessly rewarding trove of Emerson’s wisdom on the two pillars of friendship, the life of the mind, the key to personal growth, what beauty really means, and how to live with maximum aliveness.In every work of genius we recognize our own rejected thoughts; they come back to us with a certain alienated majesty.Great works of art have no more affecting lesson for us than this.In a sentiment his soul-brother Henry David Thoreau would come to echo a decade later, Emerson laments the ease with which we accept the judgments and opinions of others as objective truth while dismissing our own — a lamentation all the timelier a century and a half later, as the 24-hour media cycle feeds us ready-made opinions under the guise of objective news: A man should learn to detect and watch that gleam of light which flashes across his mind from within, more than the lustre of the firmament of bards and sages.Yet he dismisses without notice his thought, because it is his. In fact, in the past, my answer was yes to all the above questions. In life, we always turn outwardly for everything: Happiness, advice, affection, love, approval. To practice this, for the next few weeks, don’t shy away from verbal confrontation with others.